- Recognize that coping with any type of loss is an extremely difficult and painful challenge.
- *Although our society encourages stoic bravery in the face of grief, it is very important to experience and express your feelings related to your losses.
- Remember that strong feelings will not overwhelm you or make you crazy.
- It is easier to keep your emotions in control (e.g., when at work) when you allow yourself regular time to grieve and express your feelings.
- Grief takes many forms. Experiencing a wide variety of emotions such as sadness, anger, fear, guilt, confusion, numbness, relief - even joy is quite normal.
- Take care of your physical needs (nutrition, exercise, sleep, minimizing or eliminating bad habits).
- Find supportive people (family, friends, clergy, counselors) with whom you can share your grief.
- Express your grief in creative ways such as: journaling, drawing, decorating, collages, dance or music.
- Help other people who are grieving or are in need. (An excellent way to put your life struggles in perspective is to be with people who are less fortunate).
- Pursue some form of spiritual practice (meditation, prayer, church service, experiencing nature).
- *Channel your grief into pursuing a cause to help others. Become involved in support groups, advocacy, research to improve treatments for life-threatening illnesses.
- Take breaks from your grief, and enjoy the simple pleasures in your life.
- Create a special place within your home where you can relax, reflect and grieve.
- Affirm to yourself that you will get through this, and that you will grow as a result.
* denotes that lists of books and websites are provided in the Resources section of this web site.
Counseling Services can be reached at (815) 836-5455 during hours of operation.